Sexual Identity

Myths About Sexuality:

  • A person’s sexual orientation is unchanging throughout his/her life.
  • One’s gender is the basis of his/her sexual orientation (i.e. gender is linked to sexual orientation).
  • A person is either gay or straight, and someone claiming to be bisexual is in denial about being gay.
  • Everyone has to categorize themselves with regard to sexual orientation.
  • Everyone in the LGBTQ community experiences conflict and distress surrounding their sexual orientation or gender identity.

Unfortunately, some people believe that these myths are true. Often, there are assumptions about what is “culturally normal,” and it seems as if society expects every person to fit into a predetermined category. Even in circumstances where there is acceptance, some may feel pressure to label themselves and fit into the standards of that particular label.

This can make it difficult for those who are questioning their sexuality and identity in general. As a result, it can lead to:

  • Uncertainty and confusion
  • Discomfort in one’s own body
  • Symptoms of anxiety and depression
  • Feelings of loneliness and isolation
  • Feeling a lack of understanding and support

Things You Might Be Struggling With

  • Fear: Concern about the reaction of friends, co-workers, family members, etc. to how you identify and/or the way you express yourself.
  • Stereotypes: There are dozens of LGBTQ stereotypes that people believe to be true. If you are exploring your identity, it may cause more confusion if you don’t feel like you fit into the stereotypes.
  • Discomfort: It’s possible that you have grown up with religious beliefs that conflict with your personal feelings/sexual identity. You may have witnessed or directly experienced discrimination related to gender and sexual identity. This could bring out feelings of discomfort that you don’t know how to manage.
  • Fitting In: How you identify with regard to sexual identity may make you feel different from the people around you. There can be pressure to be a certain way. If you don’t feel like you fit that mold, it can be scary.

How Can I Help?

I provide a safe, nonjudgmental and unbiased perspective and setting that will allow you to explore your feelings. Together, we will figure out what it is that you truly want. My goal is to help you be comfortable with your identity without needing to use labels. Using DBT, CBT, and Psychodynamic Therapy, I will also help you develop tools to manage any stress or discomfort that you may have been experiencing.

I would be happy to answer any questions you have. Please call me for a free 15-minute phone consultation.